so I never heard about stargaze until Tom told me: "oh, morely's part of this secret members only rave group in SF"... and all of the sudden, everyone in my LJ friends page is talking about last weekend. >_< aaah...
but interestingly, I know how you feel about moving into Tom's place. I moved into Emi's place last year and things were rough at first. i never felt I had space for my stuff. some stuff just didn't fit cuz she ever imagined it at her place (like a 60" TV...), also being REALLY far from my office (but not hers!) and generally feeling like a guest ALL the time.
slowly, things are working out. I threw out a LOT of stuff. started to share space with her (i.e. bookshelf and plugins for cell phones and stuff). it's been difficult for both of us. especially the "quality time"... when most of the time, you just want to be alone to relax... it kinda feels like a date that NEVER ends...
when emi or I feel like that, we just take time out for ourselves and do whatever for an hour or so. setting a time limit is key. you still get what you want done but you're also not running away from each other. that has really helped us out. I play video games, she watches anime. at that moment, it's almost like we're finally being ourselves in front of each other, not this "date" persona.
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Date: 2007-02-22 06:00 am (UTC)but interestingly, I know how you feel about moving into Tom's place. I moved into Emi's place last year and things were rough at first. i never felt I had space for my stuff. some stuff just didn't fit cuz she ever imagined it at her place (like a 60" TV...), also being REALLY far from my office (but not hers!) and generally feeling like a guest ALL the time.
slowly, things are working out. I threw out a LOT of stuff. started to share space with her (i.e. bookshelf and plugins for cell phones and stuff). it's been difficult for both of us. especially the "quality time"... when most of the time, you just want to be alone to relax... it kinda feels like a date that NEVER ends...
when emi or I feel like that, we just take time out for ourselves and do whatever for an hour or so. setting a time limit is key. you still get what you want done but you're also not running away from each other. that has really helped us out. I play video games, she watches anime. at that moment, it's almost like we're finally being ourselves in front of each other, not this "date" persona.
good luck and take it easy. ^_-